Signs You Shouldn't Date

1. You don't want drama right now. Need explanation? Nah, 'nuf said.

2. You are too busy becoming who you are. In between working your ass off at your dream job, you're traveling the world with your besties, spending your weekends visiting cancer patients in hospitals, and getting a massage while looking fab AF (because you find time for spinning class now). You have no time!

3. You're still getting over an ex. Rebounds are beautiful distraction. But you don't necessarily have to commit to the first who tells you, "God, I think you're all that." If you're looking for an ego boost, adopt a pet instead. Dogs are loyal and kind and will act as a footrest after a terribly long day. Can lovers do that? No, they can't.

4. You're still in school. Mag-aral ka muna. Tapusin mo muna 'yung thesis mo.

5. You have never been single in your life. You had your first, when you were 16. You were together until you were 20. Six months later, you met someone. You were together until you turned 22. So here you are at 22, with no syota for the first time! Should you go on Tinder and find someone because you are alone? No.

6. You're bored. Hindi lahat ng problema nasasagot ng syota. Deep down, alam mo yan. Wala ka lang magawa. 

7. You just got off from a long-term relationship. Again, rebound syota, rebound sex—never a good idea. But rebound haircut, rebound beer, rebound family time, rebound dog, rebound slick shoes—yes, yes, yes forever!

8. You just want to get back at your ex. “Posting this photo with hottie I Met in Valkyrie on Instagram, for everyone to see and I want my ex to get crazy jealous.” Deeeeeeym.

9. Your friends are pressuring you to lower your expectations. Sana natuturuan ang puso. Wow! Lols

 10. Your type still doesn’t have his shit together. And you do. See #2.




*Adapted from Jackie Gutierrez

To The One Who Made Me Feel Good Again

Timing really is a funny thing, isn’t it? Good things always happen when you least expect them. Sometimes, you don’t realize something good even when it’s right in front of you.

I remember being such a mess when we first met. I was lost, confused, heartbroken, and damaged. I pushed you away again and again, but you stayed anyway. You helped me pick up the pieces and make sense of everything, without asking for anything in return. You respected me when I said I wasn’t ready, and you gave me space when I asked for it. 

But you never gave up on me. You kept believing in me, not because you wanted me to be okay for you, but you just wanted me to be okay. You wanted me to be happy again because you saw how much pain I was in.

You helped me remember that I deserved to be treated right, and that’s exactly what you did for me.

You encouraged me to try new things. You were a shoulder to cry on every time I relapsed. You made me feel good every time I doubted myself. You made me laugh all the time. You sent me random life quotes to inspire me and funny articles to perk me up. You took care of me when I had a little bit too much to drink, and diverted my attention when you saw trouble coming my way. You never failed to check up on me when you sensed I was feeling bad again and always found a way to turn my day around.

You are a perfect —a breed I didn’t know existed anymore because of how badly I was treated in the past.

I always thought I was unlucky. I dated them who made me feel unworthy; them who took me for granted; them who made me feel like it was always my fault. I forgot how it felt like to be appreciated and cared for. I got so used to giving so much of myself to others that I left nothing for myself. That’s why it took a while for me to come around when someone finally started treating me right.

But you helped me overcome all that. You reminded me that it’s okay to be vulnerable and it’s okay to feel. You never judged me for taking my time to heal. In fact, you helped me heal.

So I just want to say thank you. Thank you for being patient with me. Thank you for respecting me. Thank you for helping me realize my worth.

Now may not be the right time for us, because I still have so many things to figure out on my own, but I wouldn't have made it this far if it hadn't been for you. You've inspired me to keep going and to be the best version of myself. Because of you, I learned that it's okay to be alone and it is possible to find happiness within myself. So when the day comes that I'm completely okay again and we find ourselves on the same page, I know I will be the luckiest in the world. 



*Adapted from Gianna Banzon